Fear is a Liar: Your Diet Can't Give You What You Really Want

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What is your biggest fear?


For the women I work with, the initial biggest fear is the fear of being fat or gaining weight.



What is driving this fear?

Past hurts are driving it.

Past experiences are driving it.

Uncertainty is driving it.


Today’s Monday Music Inspiration is about, you guessed it...Fear...and I’m going to draw on two songs today, though there are many more about fear. 


Let’s start with Fear is a Liar by Zach Wiliams:



He gets straight to the point from the start of the song (you may or many not want your tissues, this can be hard stuff to work through and I am praying that you God covers you with His perfect peace when difficult thoughts come to mind)



Verse 1 

When he told you you're not good enough

When he told you you're not right

When he told you you're not strong enough

To put up a good fight

When he told you you're not worthy

When he told you you're not loved

When he told you you're not beautiful

That you'll never be enough



When he told you you’re not good enough, what was your response?

  • Why am I not good enough? Maybe he’s right...

  • If I lose weight, I’ll be good enough

  • Let me just start by cutting out bread

  • I’ll show him, I’ll get fit and be good enough

  • I’m afraid I’ll never be good enough

FEAR IS A LIAR



When he told you you’re not right, what was your response?

  • What do you mean I’m not right?...Maybe he’s right

  • I need to be fixed, I’ll start by working on my body…

  • What diet will give me the best results

  • I’m afraid I’ll never be right

FEAR IS A LIAR


When he told you your’re not strong enough, what was your response?

  • I must be weak and not capable, he’s right

  • I’ll get strong! I’ll go to the gym every day and at least make my body strong

  • If I’m not strong enough, I’ll never make it

  • I fear I’ll never be strong enough

FEAR IS A LIAR


When he told you you are no worthy, what was your response?

  • He’s right, I’m not worthy

  • Maybe if I lose weight I’ll be worthy again

  • Maybe If I eat clean, I’ll be worthy again

  • What if I am never worthy, what will happen?

FEAR IS A LIAR



When he told you you are not beautiful, loved or enough, how did you respond?

  • He must be right, I’m not beautiful and nobody loves me

  • At least I have my food and body to control, I’ll be beautiful

  • He loved me when I was smaller, I’ll get smaller

  • If I am not thin, I won’t be beautiful, loved or enough

FEAR IS A LIAR

If fear is a liar, where do the lies come from?

John 8:44

“You are of your father the devil, and your will is to do your father's desires. He was a murderer from the beginning, and has nothing to do with the truth, because there is no truth in him. When he lies, he speaks out of his own character, for he is a liar and the father of lies.

2 Corinthians 11:3

“But I am afraid that as the serpent deceived Eve by his cunning, your thoughts will be led astray from a sincere and pure devotion to Christ.”

2 Corinthians 4:4

“In their case the god of this world has blinded the minds of the unbelievers, to keep them from seeing the light of the gospel of the glory of Christ, who is the image of God.”

1 Peter 5:8

“Be sober-minded; be watchful. Your adversary the devil prowls around like a roaring lion, seeking someone to devour.”

Ephesians 6:11

“Put on the whole armor of God, that you may be able to stand against the schemes of the devil.”

Revelation 20:10

“And the devil who had deceived them was thrown into the lake of fire and sulfur where the beast and the false prophet were, and they will be tormented day and night forever and ever.”



HOW HAVE YOU TURNED TO FOOD AND YOUR BODY AS A RESULT OF FEAR?

What do you fear will happen if you are not on a diet, not exercising all the time, not thin, not a certain weight, not the shape you want?

Really take time to be with this question because without the answer you may be chasing freedom without a foundation. Your fears will need to be acknowledged.  Your fears are there for a reason AND your fears can be released.





All the fears in the first verse above are reasons I see of food and body obsession.  You may have life experiences that validate these fears! For example, a young woman I have worked with had a larger body as a kid.  It wasn’t until she lost weight that her dad praised her and gave her the attention & love she craved. Now, she fears losing that if she gains weight.





Our worldly experiences will shape our fear, but let’s remember the chorus of this song:



Fear he is a liar

He will take your breath

Stop you in your steps

Fear he is a liar

He will rob your rest

Steal your happiness

Cast your fear in the fire

Cause fear he is a liar


Can you relate? 

How often have you been robbed of your rest? Not just physical rest, but mental and emotional rest?  Think about how much time you spend thinking about your food choices or your weight. Is it more than 50% of the day? Your worry about your body and not being good enough, pretty enough,etc. has left you unhappy, disappointed.



What if you cast your fear in the fire?

These takes us to our next song “Stand in Your Love”, by Josh Baldwin, which beautifully connects us to God as we lay down our fear.



Verse 1

When darkness tries to roll over my bones

When sorrow comes to steal the joy I own

When brokenness and pain is all I know

Oh, I won't be shaken, no, I won't be shaken




How often do you find yourself turning to food-whether eating it or avoiding it-when darkness comes in, when sorrow comes to take your joy? Do you find that you often push down your emotions with food instead of tuning into them, allowing them to inform you about how you are interacting with your situation? 





Are you giving power to the scale?  What does that look like for you? Are you letting the scale rule your food decisions, in hopes it will “save” you from gaining weight? (Which, as mentioned above, is usually about some underlying fear or worry, not really about the weight). Are you hoping the diet will break you free of the chains of your past as you try to rewrite your future?





What if you gave the power back to Jesus?

Verse 3


There's power that can break off every chain

There's power that can empty out a grave

There's resurrection power that can save

There's power in Your name, power in Your name





What if you took your fear to the cross? Could you sing:


”My fear doesn't stand a chance-When I stand in Your love”



Could you trust and believe that perfect love cast out all fear:



1 John 4:16-18

And so we know and rely on the love God has for us. God is love. Whoever lives in love lives in God, and God in them. This is how love is made complete among us so that we will have confidence on the day of judgment: In this world we are like Jesus. There is no fear in love. But perfect love drives out fear, because fear has to do with punishment. The one who fears is not made perfect in love.





Be careful not to define God’s love your own way, in a way that might feel great to you.  Define His love using His truth found in the Bible. When you try to put God in a box based on your own thoughts, you limit his power.  Ask Him to show you His love and how you can stand in it to overcome your fears.



Now, stand firm & armor up so you fight off the fiery arrows, the arrows of lies that seek to penetrate your soul and burn up your faith. Instead, fill your heart and mind with God’s truth, seeking Him.



Do you have a music inspiration suggestion? Let me know in the comments!



And above all these put on love, which binds everything together in perfect harmony.


Colossians 3:14

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