What the dietitian did...

So, have you ever considered that dietitians "should" eat "perfectly?"

This has happened to me. Judgement placed on me because I am a health expert and should know better than to eat certain foods.  After all, I have had years of training, education and practice as a clinician.  There is no room for mistakes, right?  Well, I want to let you in on a few of my confessions. Are you ready for the raw truth? If so, keep reading...

I have eaten too much food in one sitting.

First of all, the term "too much" may be different for you than it is for me.  However, the feeling may be the same.  I have filled my belly to the point of discomfort, leaving me lethargic and unable to concentrate as well, even wanting to nap (well, napping is a common theme in my busy mom-work life!) One difference we may have is that I choose to not beat myself up about it, but learn from it so I am more in tune with my body's needs the next time I am in a similar situation.  I don't usually want to eat more than I need because I don't feel good. 

I have eaten to calm my stress.

Yep, I've done it too, you are not alone.  Sometimes life gets the best of us and that favorite food just seems like the cure, the answer to our problems.  Now, you are ultimately in charge of your food decisions and sometimes you might eat to calm stress, navigate change in your life or other reasons.  When it becomes a road block to your health is when it happens often and even becomes your mains source of stress relief.  Take some time to explore non-food ways to manage your stress.  One thing that has helped me is just removing myself from the situation.  Also, I try to remember that God tells us "do not be anxious about anything" (Phil 4:6) and to "lean not on our own understanding" (Proverbs 3:5)... Is there scripture that soothes your stress? Come share with us in our Private Group for Women right HERE.

I serve dessert with dinner.

GASP!  I can't believe I just shared that with you!  Actually, if you don't do it, give it a try and see what happens.  I spoke with a parent and described this "neutral" approach to food.  She tried it out on her family, giving them ice cream with dinner.  Her oldest daughter at the ice cream first and you won't believe what happened!  Well, she actually at the rest of her dinner: quinoa, fish and broccoli. My kids (5, 3 and 1) will sometimes eat dessert first and finish their meal.  Other times they eat most of their dinner then dessert.  This keeps food in it's correct place...off the idolatry pedestal!

I have tried to diet my way to a thinner body.

Um, yep...I've done this as well.  I never tried any commercial programs per se, but I definitely tracked calories, restricted the "forbidden" foods, compared my eating patterns to others, weighed myself several times a week.  But you know what?  That was a horrible experience!  I was deprived, disconnected from my hunger and fullness rhythms and I became moody and irritable!  The mindful & intuitive eating approach to health leaves me satisfied, with moods that are more happy and manageable, and a body that I care for & listen to for guidance on what, when and how much to eat.  What about that thin body I wanted? Not. Gonna. Happen.  My body is my body and it is not meant to look the way I thought I wanted it to look. 

I'm done worrying about what others think and about getting "that" body.  I want to help you do the same.

You will often hear me say "comparison is the thief of joy" (thanks Teddy Roosevelt). It's really not worth it to compare my body, my food choices, how much I eat or my physical activity choices to anybody.  It has truly left me empowered in my body to leave comparison behind.  Now, God has blessed me with opportunities to help women break free from the bondage and burdens of dieting, eating disorders and the drive to be thin.  While doing this, they begin to boldly walk in God's love and embrace who they are in Christ.

You are loved.

You are accepted.

You are more than a number.

There are certainly more confessions, but I'll end here for now.  In the meantime, did you get a chance to participate in the 5 Day Diet Detox in our private on-line community?  If not, you can grab The Ultimate Diet Detox: a 21 kick start empowering you to live your best life without dieting. Get it right HERE and be sure to hop on over to our Private Community for WOMEN who want to break free and grow in their relationship with God.  See you there!


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Living Life-The Weight Neutral Way

Just today somebody said to me, "Kelley, how much weight have you lost?" I have no idea, I don't weigh myself and I haven't been trying to lose weight.  "Well, you are & that's a good thing, right?" I'd rather be getting more sleep, but I'm busy growing my nutrition coaching/counseling business, working part-time and working side by side with my hubby to raise our kiddos (ages 5, 3 and 1).  So, worrying about my weight is not really on my to-do list today, this month, or really ever. But, thanks for asking.  I am actually going to ask this person, the next time I see him, what he meant by the "it's a good thing, right?"  Either he is trying to flatter me, thinking that I want applause for getting a smaller body, or he thinks I am too big and need to lose weight.  I'm just curious, really, because it can open the door to a really powerful conversation. 

What is Weight-Neutral Living?

Well, let's start by clarifying what it means to be weight-neutral.  Have you ever been told by your doctor, family member, friend or just some nosy person that you need to lose weight to be healthier?  Did this immediately (or eventually) launch into "fixing your diet" through food restriction, calorie counting, exercise and daily weigh-ins? How did that go for you?  I've been there, too.  You know what?  I was even told by my physician "I know I am preaching to the choir, but you could really afford to lose weight."  I was furious!  He did not even bother to ask about my habits, which happened to include training for a 150 mile bicycle ride from Richmond, VA to Williamsburg, VA and back!!  Needless to say, it can be consuming, the drive to lose weight and see the number on the scale get lower and lower...and lower.

The less accepted, but more effective approach is a weight neutral mind-set.  This simply means your food, exercise and self-care behaviors are not focused on losing weight, but tuning into you and your needs and what YOUR body is telling you.  There is no judgement. No guilt. No shame. There is movement towards body acceptance.  All of these things lead you to a peaceful relationship with food, which opens the door to satisfy your nutrition needs while making your taste buds happy as you enter into your best health (no matter your weight...aka "health at every size"). Need more reasons?

3 Reasons for Weight-Neutral Living

1. Better Health

That's right, you might actually improve your health!  When you stop focusing on weight loss, you will stop trying to be so rigid with diet and exercise, you will end the yo-yo'ing of your weight and begin to really feel good. You will learn how to pay attention to your body and no longer be dictated by the rules and rigidity of diets.  You will learn nutrition strategies that are best for you.

2. Clear Your Head Clutter

A heightened focus on weight loss opens the door for obsessive thinking. Now, it is possible that not everyone will experience this, BUT many people will begin to think about calories, measuring food, weighing food, putting labels on food (good or bad), which then leads to feeling good or bad depending on which food was eaten.  The scale comes into place and when the number is not going down, here comes frustration, guilt, feeling like a failure, increased food restriction and possibly over-exercise.  When a weight-neutral mindset is present, these obsessions & thoughts fade away, opening the door for other, more life giving thoughts.

For those who live according to the flesh set their minds on the things of the flesh, but those who live according to the spirit,the things of the Spirit. For to be carnally minded is death, but to be spiritually minded is life and peace.  Romans 8:5-6

3. End Comparison

Though there are many more points to make for weight neutrality, we will end on this note of comparison, which Theodore Roosevelt said "is the thief of joy."  RIGHT?!  Have you been on the comparison bandwagon?  Wow, it always has just left me feeling negative about myself and wishing I could look like her! I compared my beauty to others a lot when I was growing up.  I always felt inadequate, so I made it up by being the best in other things: sports, academics, music...But, I did not know God then.  I know him now and I know I am beautiful regardless of what the world says. (I still have days where I forget this and have to be reminded!!) You are a designer brand! You are a masterpiece!

For we are His workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God prepared beforehand that we should walk in them. Ephesians 2:10

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You are loved.

You are accepted.

You are more than a number.


Be Strong & Courageous

Have you ever had something that you just new you were suppose to do, that you really felt called to do for the glory of God?  BUT, things started to pop up and challenge you, get in your way, block you, which then made you DOUBT that you were on the right path?

I literally had a dream last night that I was driving a car, had no idea where I was headed, but I knew I needed to keep driving.  Then, all of sudden, I was about to be driving against the traffic!  That is an incredibly scary feeling, but relief was apparent almost as quickly as the fear came over me about driving the wrong way.  There was a slight turn for me to continue on the path that was right for me.

This was such a profound dream for me and I have no doubt that God was speaking to me and reminding me of the path He has set me on, of the trials that may come my way and that he will never leave nor forsake me,  and of His provision to continue the good work He has started in me.

At the end of last year I felt a strong push to boldly shift the way I approach my nutrition services. Simply put, it meant more of Him and less of me.  So, I listened and now Embrace Eating Recovery for Women is up and running as a faith based program to help women break free from the burdens of dieting and eating disorders while developing a greater intimacy with God.

Has God given you a vision?

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Have I not commanded you? Be strong and courageous. Do not be frightened and do not be dismayed, for the Lord your God is with you wherever you go. 

Joshua 1:9

I encourage you, follow the dream that God has placed on your heart.  Be prepared that roadblocks will jump in front of you when you least expect.  Be strong and courageous, trusting that God has given you a way around, through or over the roadblock. 

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